Every human being gets gut instincts about things. It is the Soul's way of communicating to us through our feelings. Another name for it, is intuition. This is our internal GPS system. It is programmed to guide us along this pathway called life. It helps us to go in the right direction, or guides us back when we have taken a diversion or gone the wrong way. Just like a traffic light that flashes red, our negative gut feelings warn us to stop or take another route. Our positive vibes flash green to tell us we are good to go, or to proceed along the road we are taking.
HSPs are extremely intuitive. They pick up 'vibes' about people or situations very easily. What HSPs struggle with however, is trusting their vibes or gut feelings. This is often because the warnings are often subtle feelings or body responses initially. There is no visible traffic lights flashing up red or green for us to see. (Unless they are clairvoyant of course and can see people's auras!)
Wouldn't it be great, if the subtle warnings were much more obvious? Like on that first date with someone new. Wouldn't it be much easier if Billy Ocean suddenly popped up behind the person you were having a meal with and started singing 'Red Light, spells Danger!' It may have saved you months of time and heartbreak, for example, after you finally find out he's married or not looking for commitment.
A lot of HSPs who come to see me, whether its for readings, counselling, healing or regression therapy have admitted to 'not listening to my intuition' when it comes to people, situations or past relationships. They have ignored the 'red flags' or warning signals.
HSPs often feel embarrassed, foolish, ashamed or angry.They tend to self flagellate or berate themselves when they look back and realise that the red flags or gut feelings were there. 'I knew. I just ignored them' is often the most common statement I hear.
I ask them not to beat themselves up about it. I ask them to be more compassionate with themselves. Life is a series of lessons and tests. We gain more and more awareness along the way. Our experiences are the keys to learning and growth.
Our Soul will always try and get us to pay attention, either with much stronger feelings or through 'wake-up' calls.
So why do HSPs ignore their gut feelings or vibes?
There are many reasons, here are just a few:
*Not wanting to hurt the other person's feelings.
*They struggle with a lack of boundaries.
*They can be easily manipulated by others if they lack self-love.
*HSPs are highly empathic. Without energy protection, they can absorb other people's emotions and feelings and then their own feelings get lost in the mix.
But one of the main reasons is that HSPs struggle with being either TOO trusting or not trusting anyone. Being too trusting and ignoring any ‘niggling feelings’ often leads to heartache for HSPs. Consequently, they may flip into the opposite and end up trusting no-one as a result of the hurt, pain or betrayal that has occurred in the past. The latter closes them off from being receptive and letting lovely people or experiences into their lives.
The key is 'DISCERNMENT'. Your instincts don’t lie. If there is a warning sign or an alarm bell going off internally when you are around someone or if you have a strong negative body reaction – please listen to it. Your intuition is your wise inner guide and it speaks to you through your feelings not your emotions. If you have a feeling about someone and can’t explain why, other than it being an intuitive feeling, then please trust it.
As most of you know, I worked in a prison for ten years. There, gut feelings, vibes and intuition were valued enormously. Prison staff may walk onto a quiet wing or landing, but if they could feel a vibe or something 'brewing' as they described it, they would trust it. Alarm bells would go off, literally and figuratively speaking! So learn to listen to those inner alarm bells. Allow your Inner Billy Ocean to sing his warning to you if the red light spells danger or is giving you a no go warning. On the flip side, embrace your Inner Beach Boys, if the green light flashes with 'Good Vibrations.' x